Keep your mouth shut


Conquering the business world is one of the loneliest challenges you will ever face. It is also one that should prompt you to keep your mouth shut.

Yes, your circle of acquaintances and business networks will skyrocket if you are savvy about what you do. But the higher you climb the ladder to success, the more you will understand than you can often count your true and trustworthy friends on a single hand.

When something exciting is about to happen (or you think it is about to happen) in your career or business, it is human nature to want to scream it from the rooftops, to run down the hallway, whip up an email to your frenemies or quickly sms someone at work or a friend and share the details.

For example, you may have heard that you are in line for a promotion. You have worked so hard at it and now it is finally ‘your turn’. Or you may have been called by a media outlet to be featured in a magazine in the future and you’re thinking to yourself – this is it, I am FINALLY getting there.


But what happens if you don’t get that promotion? Or the media outlet postpones your interview or cancels it altogether?


The first thing you think of is, oh crap, how many people did I say this too? Then you realized you blurted it all over Facebook, Twitter and at Friday night drinks after having a few too many (hence why we say don’t drink at work-related functions!).

Then a wave of “did you get the promotion?” comments flood your social media accounts and followers wanting to know if they missed you in the publication because they couldn’t see you. The gossip train has left the station.

You feel like a fool. You get angry that it didn’t happen, blaming the boss or the media outlet for your embarrassment, when in fact you have no-one to blame but yourself.

You start to instantly regret blurting out all the ‘possibilities’ that were presented before you.

You need to always keep in mind that many people love nothing more than to see you fail or be less successful than them ⎯ and to be able to gossip about it. This is a reality, so you just need to be strategic in how you deal with it.


Next time  you are faced with a situation like this, here are a few things you should consider:


  • Count to 10 before getting too excited, remain calm and look at the facts.
  • Confirm the opportunity in writing (for your records).
  • Don’t tell anyone about the opportunity, outside your designated circle of trust (usually 1-2 people you can discuss these with).
  • Map out a “get the word out” plan for AFTER the opportunity occurs (never underestimate the power of letting people know you have done something after it happens rather than before).
  • When you are in a meeting or at a function and someone mentions the opportunity, just brush it off and quickly respond with a question that puts the focus back on them, their latest project or their own plans.


About Amanda Rose

Founder and CEO of The Business Woman Media. Amanda Rose is also the only 'strategic connector', a brand strategist, keynote speaker and host of Amanda Rose TV. Connect with Amanda Rose on LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter or visit www.amandaroseofficial.com.

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