How to be seen and heard in your career

In this day and age many workplaces and businesses still entertain a hidden competition between sexes, where women are considered the weaker sex and the ‘male’ way is still the predominant way. In those kinds of environments, being seen and heard for women that desire to succeed has been a difficult endeavor. Awakening their Amazon like nature, and embracing the competition, force, effort, proving to be right, being loud as a way of being in business and at the workplace.

What if there is a different possibility available?

What if there is also room for a different, subtler but effective way, that will yield greater results? What if the way of a lady who uses her attributes of ease, elegance, skills and her brilliance to her advantage, can sometimes be much more effective than playing the Amazon role?

Are you a fighter?

If we are not being seen, it could be due to the fact that we have our barriers and walls up. That might be a consequence of our long struggle of fighting to be heard, seen and valued, but what is actually being created with that, might not be a result we are looking for.

Lowering our walls and barriers and our means of defense will get us much further. When we are trying to prove we are right or that our idea or opinion has value, we assume the position of a fighter and we automatically bring all the guns and swords to the table or put on our steal armor, ready to go into battle. As a result, we might appear as unapproachable to most people, which in turn pushes them away and makes them avoid us, rather than become interested in us and what we have to say.

It is when we lower our walls and barriers, that we become more inviting to other people, which opens the door for others wanting to engage with us, listen to us and desire to be in our presence. It is almost like we become a temptress of a different possibility.

Turning judgment into gratitude

One of the reasons why we are not being heard is also because we believe our ideas have no value. That might also be due to past experience, but clinging on to the past, is not our best choice.

Instead, we can choose to stop believing all the projections and expectations that we have received in the past and start learning not to judge ourselves, others and the situation we are in. When we are not judging, it is easier to see our own value, as well as the value of others. When we judge and conclude, then we can’t see the possibilities that are available because those judgments are blocking our view.

Instead of judgment, we can start looking for and acknowledging the things that we are good at. This can give us a different perspective on the situation and what kind of treatment we should be receiving and also giving.

Not believing the projections and expectations about you to be true

The fact is that people will always project onto others of what they themselves are doing and experiencing, and the truth of the matter is that those projections do not have anything to do with you.

That being said, every situation has a feeling to it. Look at what people are saying to or about you and see if that ‘feels’ light and expansive or heavy and contracted to you. If it has a heavy or contracted feeling to it, it might not be true for you, which means it is just a point of view they have, and you do not have to be at the effect of it.

What if 98% of your thoughts, feelings and emotions weren’t yours?

Have you ever started your day feeling happy and good about yourself and you walked into a room where there is tension and upset and all of a sudden you started feeling that way too?

What if it is the same with what you thought about yourself, or what you thought were your limitations, or things you can’t do or be good and successful at?

A simple question of ‘Who does this belong to? Is this really mine?’ can help change some of the limitations that you have been struggling with, to no avail, perhaps even for a very long time.

Take care of yourself and your body

In the greater scheme of things, we tend to forget to include our body. After all our body can be our best ally and one of the most effective tools to achieve being seen and heard. When we include and take care of our body, with lots of movement and nurturing, we start enjoying it more, we start liking the skin we are in and in turn become more connected with it and also very present and therefore visible.

Being you in the workplace

When you are being who you are, without any pretense and proving, everything you say and do has a sense of ease, joy, enthusiasm to it, and with that you are an invitation to people, which are naturally drawn to you.

Don’t be afraid to voice your ideas and letting your brilliance shine. Mostly people think that if they have lots of ideas and they come so easily to them, or they are so apparent and logical to them, they must not be worth anything and they dismiss and never voice them, thinking someone must have already thought of that.

What if it is finally the time to start recognizing that being who you are is the valuable product and that your ideas are brilliant and are just waiting for you to give them a voice? Only you know.