Confident Leader

Stand tall and aim taller


No matter how much good you do in your life, there will always be someone standing on the sideline trying to tear you down … Don’t let that discourage you from where you are today, and where you want to be in the future.

You may not have it all together yet, but you are probably taking steps in the right direction. You may slip, but as with all things you dust yourself off, acknowledge your fall, and continue to grow. Do not depend on what others think of you to validate yourself.


Stand tall when you make a mistake

Make a mental note; better yet, write it down in a journal so you can reference it and figure out what you could have done differently so that you do not make the same mistake again.

No one is perfect. You can even take it a step further and apologize to the person or people you may have wronged. You may not even have wronged another person but you wronged yourself… In that case you owe YOURSELF an apology.

Stand tall when making changes

People may criticize you for doing things you want to do; for making changes in your life, perhaps even going to church now or not associating with people from your past. But it’s your right to make those changes! You made the choice to want more for yourself. Hold your head up and embrace your past because without your past you would not be who you are TODAY.


Stand tall when peers try to undermine you

People trying to pull you down will happen in both your personal and work life.  When you are doing very well at work it is not uncommon for your co-workers or peers to try to pull you down.  They may say you are always “sucking up” to the boss or that you think you are better than them.  They may even start or spread rumors and gossip about you.

It may or may not be intentional, however when it does happen it’s because of fear and intimidation. The economy is very competitive right now and can cause your peers and co-workers to see you as a threat to their position when they perceive you to be better than them at work.

You are better than them because you choose to let your work speak for you. There is no need to address anyone about their negativity at work because you will not be able to change them and you should never apologize for doing well at work.


Stand tall and aim taller

Here are some tips on how you can keep growing and rising on your path, stand tall and aim even taller.

  • Regardless of your position at work you should always try to perform one or two levels above your level.  For example, if you are the manager, you should conduct yourself and have knowledge of the business as if you were the General Manager.
  • Study your craft and skillset, own and master it because you never know what your peers and co-workers may have planned for you and your plans for yourself should always be bigger and better.  Learn the general history of the business, know the mission statement or philosophy and ask if possible to be crossed trained in different areas to gain extra knowledge and skills.
  • Always excuse yourself when people are speaking negatively about others or the company.
  • Regardless of the situation with friends or at work, do not let anyone make you feel less than the person you are or you are striving to become.  This may just seem like words but it takes time, practice, confidence and belief in yourself.

Stand Tall!!!


About Jamillah Foulkes

Jamillah Foulkes is the owner of Empower U-- your empowerment Life Coach – an officer in the U.S. Army. She has BA in psychology from Northwestern State University and a MSA in Human Resources from Central Michigan University. She helps people stop being the passenger in their relationships and start being the conductor of their life. People gain the confidence to transform unhealthy relationships with their partner, mother, father, friends, co-workers, etc… by learning how put a value their self worth. Visit our websiteor email [email protected]

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