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What are the right questions?


No matter where you are in your life, career or business, you are where you are, based on what you believed to be the best choice to make at that time. As life changes, the vision of what you want your future to look like also changes.

How do you get clarity on that vision or future?  One of the most effective tools is to ask the right questions about your life and business.  What are the right questions? Questions that don’t necessarily have answers or conclusions. They are basically statements with question marks attached.  Questions like, “Why? Why did this happen to me?” for example, will not empower you forward, but limit you instead.

The right questions are expansive when asked with curiosity and an open mind. Asking questions can also open you up to opportunities you may not have thought were available before.  Change the ‘why’ to a ‘what’ question.  ‘What’ questions help you become present and aware of the possibilities available to you, as well as what your next steps should be. An awareness can be anything from knowing to drive home a different way, calling a friend, visiting a place you’ve never been to before, or reading a new book.  You are not sure why you are choosing it, but you just know to choose and follow it.

Here are 3 questions to get you started:

  1. What is right about this that I am not getting?

When something doesn’t go according to plan, we often judge and beat ourselves up over it. Instead you can ask yourself, “what is right about this that I am not getting?” or, “what is right about me I am not getting?”. You will be able to look at what happened from a different perspective and see possibilities to resolve, change or move on from a situation instead.  This question takes you out of judgement and creates a space for something greater to show up.

  1. What choices do I have in my business and career?

There is no one else like you, so celebrate all of your talents, skills, capacities, experiences and choices.  No one has walked the same path as you, experienced what you have, or cultivated your own unique perspective and skillset.  Asking yourself, “what choices do I have,” allows you to not only acknowledge how unique you are, but it also opens you up to opportunities you hadn’t seen before.

  1. What can I be and do to create my future?

You have the capacity to change anything in your life.  You are where you are right now because of the choices you made.  You are the one who created your life.  Therefore, you can choose something different.  If you are not satisfied, you can change it.  You can choose a life where you love waking up in the morning, full of energy, with a happy body, joyful relationships, and loving what you do.  Deciding what you desire and committing to it, is the first step.  Then, ask yourself every morning, “what can I be and do today, to create my future? What choices and actions can I take?”

Asking questions is a powerful tool to help you discover what you would truly love to do in life. The questions above may seem simple, but they will help you see and become aware of different opportunities and possibilities, every time you ask. Asking questions with curiosity and an open mind, will give you the power to change everything in your life. If you don’t ask, you can’t receive!

About Arlene Schmidek'

Arlene Schmidek is an Access Consciousness Being You and Joy of Business facilitator and has been in the industry of business, life and wellness development for more than 30 years. Arlene is co-owner of a multi-million dollar family-owned dealership which is now celebrating its 44th year of operation, in addition to co-founder of a consulting and training business. She brings a wealth of experience across many disciplines, coupled with a passion for creating positive change.

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