Business of Men

Are you subconsciously sabotaging your career?


So … are you sabotaging your career? Of course not! I hear you scoff. But really, you probably are and don’t even know it. As women in business we are faced with constant judgment from external sources but more often, our sub-conscious chatter on a daily basis.

We can barrage ourselves with constant negative self-talk creating self-doubt, fears about failure and what success will change, looking stupid, being criticised, not being liked. The list can go on and on.

We seem to be much more sensitive souls than our male counterparts and it is to the detriment of our success.

How do I know if I am sabotaging my career? Answer Yes to any of these questions below and bingo — you’re a saboteur!



Do you need your work to be perfectly perfect before sharing it?

It’s normal to want your work to be right but if you review and review and review your work, in a panic and fear that maybe it’s not perfect, your colleagues can see this as a lack of confidence in your work. A mindset that you are not good enough and anything less than perfect will bring criticism.



Do you worry that if you were to make more money than your partner, friends, family, colleagues, how they would react?

Quite often even though we work incredibly hard to make more money we subconsciously can be fearful of what that will change in our relationships. Will our partner feel threatened, will our friends be jealous and not want to spend time with us, will our family think of us a greedy?


Moving up the corporate ladder

Do you feel like women are less likely to be considered for a promotion or pay increase?

If you have doubts that getting that promotion or pay increase will ever happen, that belief is creating your reality. Even the media pushing the fact that men are paid more than women confirms that belief which becomes our sub conscious expectation.


Never quite ready

Do you feel that when you have read one more book, studied another course or completed more pro-bono work, then you’ll be ready?

Until you can truly acknowledge all that you know, all that you have to share, all that you are incredibly talented in, you will never be ready. Ready to launch, pitch an idea, ask for a pay increase, ask for a promotion.

Basically it’s time to get out of our own way, bring our sensitive, overly worried minds under control and use tools to harness the positive power of our minds.


Now how are you going to stop the sabotage?

You need to delve into your sub-conscious to discover exactly how you feel about yourself, honestly and from the heart. How capable you are, how educated you are, how talented you are, how worthy you are. That’s just for starters.

Once you have identified all of your beliefs about yourself, most of which will be complete BS, you need to set about removing those beliefs that are not serving you.

I love to use EFT / Tapping to shift and remove these beliefs because the benefit is immediate, it’s easy and super powerful but you can also use meditation, visualisation and positive affirmations.

It’s time to quieten that chatter and thrive in your career and life.

About Paula Kloots

Paula Kloots is a practicing Certified Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Practitioner, wife and mum to two teenagers. Using EFT, Paula guides you to identify your personal fears, self doubts and limiting beliefs and teaches you the tools to remove them to create a mind, body and life you love. Paula offers one to one EFT sessions either in person or via Skype.

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