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You’ve got this: How to get out of a rut at work


Dr Froswa’ Booker-Drew answers your questions, putting her years of experience and practice into the goal of solving those knotty problems that beset us, and assuring us: ‘you’ve got this’. If you’d like Froswa’ to look at your particular problem, email it to

I’m really stuck in a rut at work. I once loved this job, but now the days just seem to drag on and every day seems the same. How can I learn to love my job again? Maria Anderson


It’s awesome to have a job that you love.  For so many, they daily dread waking up for work.  They go through the motions every day of living an existence that robs them of fulfillment and joy.  Even in jobs that we love, there are tasks/duties that we don’t particularly enjoy.  Let’s stroll down memory lane…what is it about your job that you love?  Are those elements still present?  What are the pros and cons to your work?  If the cons outweigh the good, then maybe it is time for some reflection and evaluation.  Has something changed on the job that is not so much about your duties but the environment?

A few years ago, I had a job that I adored.  My boss was amazing and supportive.  When she left, things changed.  Although I had additional responsibilities added to my load, some of the work I really loved was still available to pursue.  I adored my team and but even in that, I just found myself unhappy.  I realized that the job hadn’t changed drastically but the environment made it difficult for me to enjoy what I loved.  We were in crisis mode and the ongoing changes took so much of my excitement away.  A friend of mine told me something so profound.  She said that when an eagle wants her babies to leave the nest, she begins to add rocks and remove the straw.  The discomfort would eventually assist the baby in deciding to take off and soar.  For me, I knew that it was time to do something different (trust me, with much hesitation) and I landed very well.   I don’t know your situation completely but I am wondering if the discomfort you are experiencing is an opportunity for you to do something different and soar.   Take an inventory.  Can you stay and focus on the love that the job once provided or is it time to find something new that will jolt your soul?

Whatever you decide, I know it will be amazing because you are!  Maria, you are meant to leap and soar, not drag and deal with mediocrity.  Leap and soar where you are or somewhere else but do it!  In the end, realize that You. Got. This.

About Dr. Froswa Booker-Drew

Dr. Froswa' Booker-Drew is a Partnership Broker. Relational Leadership Junkie. Connector. Author/Speaker/Trainer. Co-Founder, HERitage Giving Circle. She been quoted and profiled in Forbes, Ozy, Bustle, Huffington Post and other media outlets around the world. In addition, she has been asked to speak on a variety of topics such as social capital and networking, leadership, diversity, and community development to national and international audiences. This included serving as a workshop presenter at the United Nations in 2013 on the Access to Power. One of the most impactful life events for her was being a part of the documentary, Friendly Captivity, a film that followed a cast of 7 women from Dallas to India. Honors for her work include: Semi-finalist for the SMU TEDx in 2012, 2012 Outstanding African American Alumni Award from the University of Texas at Arlington, 2009 Woman of the Year Award by Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. and Diversity Ambassador for the American Red Cross. Graduating with a PhD from Antioch University in Leadership and Change, she also attended the Jean Baker Miller Institute at Wellesley for training in Relational Cultural Theory and completed facilitator training on Immunity to Change. She has also completed training through UNICEF on Equity Based Evaluations, and is the author of 2 workbooks for women, Ready for a Revolution: 30 Days to Jolt Your Life and Rules of Engagement: Making Connections Last as well as a writer for several publications around the globe. WFAA Attention Series: Froswa Booker Drew on Vimeo

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