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How to fit IVF, IUI, and egg freezing into a busy career


Busy careers show no partiality to the personal matters in our lives. Nor do infertility issues show partiality to our busy careers. With so much already on a career-driven and family-oriented woman’s plate, it may seem impossible to squeeze in one more thing and keep it all balanced.

However, through assisted reproductive technologies (ART), it’s possible to incorporate the right option for you – whether IVF, IUI, or egg freezing – into your daily life and achieve a level of balance. If you’re considering these options, it’s a wise idea to compare the treatment costs before you decide which path is best for your family. Here are three practical ways to integrate ART procedures into your busy life. 

1. Ask questions, then ask more questions

It’s important to do as much research as possible and consult with your medical team to know all your available options. The more you know, the better able you’ll be to mentally prepare for and coordinate all the moving parts in your life. By getting as much detailed information about what’s required of you during each step and procedure, you can develop a clear picture of what you need to do, where you need to be, and when it needs to be done. Key questions for you to ask include:

  • Procedures– What are the major milestones for each procedure? What does each step require of me? Where do I need to be for each step? What dependencies are there on other people or resources?
  • Time – What is the overall timeline for each type of ART cycle? How long is each procedure? How much time do I need to set aside for each visit prior to and during the procedure? What is the typical recovery period for each procedure? When do delays typically occur and for how long?
  • Administrative – What legal matters do I need to consider? What contracts will I have to sign? What documentation will be required?
  • Costs– What are the monetary costs? Is there any variability in costs? Is insurance accepted or financial aid available? What types and frequencies of payments are accepted? 

2. Manage your expectations

Once you’re comfortable with the answers to your initial questions, you should consult further with your doctor to understand what kind of success rates (such as pregnancy and live birth) are likely for each type of ART based on your personal circumstances.

Also, it’s imperative to be cognizant of how each step may impact you physically, mentally, and emotionally. Allow yourself to experience a full range of emotions and realize it’s a normal part of the process. Be gentle with yourself. Undergoing any type of fertility treatment is a big deal, especially when trying to carry on with daily work requirements.

3. Focus on what you can control

Life happens, and unforeseen circumstances alter even the best-laid plans. You can’t control everything, but there are certainly things you can control. Embracing this perspective and remaining flexible will help you have a positive experience and go a long way in alleviating additional stress.

Positive actions you can take:

  • Make Healthy Choices Remember: making healthy choices counts. Consistent healthy choices can optimize your overall health and wellbeing. Being in the best health you can possibly be in can only increase your chances of pregnancy success and resiliency in any situation.
  • Get and stay organize Taking your mind off clutter and other distractions can allow you to focus on the things that matter most.
  • Establish a support system – Find someone you trust or a group of reliable friends and family who are willing to consistently support you emotionally, physically, and logistically throughout the process.
  • Communicate your plan and schedule – Your fertility treatment plans may be a delicate topic to bridge at work, so you may only want to consider disclosing information to those who need-to-know and have the ability to best support your goals. In general, the more you’re able to communicate with others how your fertility treatment may impact your life, the better others can meaningfully contribute their support.

Undoubtedly, your career is important to you and integral to how you provide for yourself and your family. By utilizing the tips above, you can apply your professional skills to achieve your parental goals while maintaining your busy career.

About Heidi Hayes

Heidi Hayes is the Executive Vice President of California Cryobank's Donor Egg Bank. She has more than 20 years of healthcare experience and has worked extensively in the field of reproductive endocrinology. Having been unsuccessful at traditional IUI and IVF treatments, Heidi personally understands the struggles of infertility. After many years of trying to conceive, she ultimately built her family through adoption and donor egg treatment. She always believed that if she didn't give up, her ultimate goal of becoming a parent would someday become a reality.

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