The world will be saved by women


 “We all know that the feminine values of well-being, love, connection, inclusion, and caring are critical to creating a world that works. But what if these feminine values are the keys to creating the life of your dreams?” —Kris Carr

“The world will be saved by women.” These words were delivered by the Dalai Lama on Sunday morning, September 27th, 2009 during the opening presentation at the Vancouver Peace Summit.  This doesn’t mean that this task is left solely to women, or that the traits generally attributed to the masculine are valued less. This optimistic and hopeful statement suggests a more collaborative, peaceful, and harmonious effort that celebrates the “differences” rather than “separates” might help us reach the tipping point for change.

As Michael Jackson suggests in his song “Man in the Mirror” how might you, as a woman make the world a better place by looking at yourself and making a change while we have the time.

Here are the eight (8) tips for being the change you wish to see in the world:

1. You first

“You first” implies you go first and others will follow, not because you ask them to, but because they are inspired by your confidence and actions. They observe how you live your life, and that you demonstrate the traits of forgiveness, compassion, understanding, generosity, cheerfulness, positivity and love, and they will want what you have.

Be decisive, determined, and seek support from your tribe, accountability partner or mentor in moving your life forward.

Step into the responsibility of being a leader and lead by example.

2. Be you

Who among us isn’t doing the best we’re capable of, with the understanding we have? It’s freeing to just be who you are and have the freedom to choose what you want to do, where you go, and with whom regardless of other people’s opinion.

Allow yourself to live without the self-judgment and criticism and accept who you are, flaws and all.

There is freedom in relaxing and just being you!

3. Be still and listen

Meditation is the time spent in silence which enables us to listen to the guidance of our higher self.

Meditation benefits us and its effect also impacts others.

Your personal purpose will make itself known to you if you listen and follow the guidance of your heart and spirit. If you are distracted and busy in life your spirit’s whisperings can’t be heard so be mindful and patient.

The Maharishi Effect, defined as 1% of the population practicing a Transcendental Meditation program in any city, reduces the crime and accident rates and establishes a new formula for the creation of an ideal society, free from crime and problems.

4. Act with passion and purpose

This means to act with discernment and take decisive action with enthusiasm. Be open to the possibility of opportunities and set yourself up for success.

Create your own affirmation related to a goal or goals. It should be personal, in the present tense and positive. Write them on a cue card and carry it with you

5. Align your thoughts, words, and actions

Just as we teach people how to treat us, we also show people what we value by how we speak and act. When our thoughts, words, and actions are in alignment we achieve our goals with ease and speed.

If our actions are not consistent with our words we lose credibility and respect from our co-workers, clients, family members, and friends.

Align yourself with those who are like-minded for support and inspiration. I have found that it’s beneficial to keep my thoughts to myself unless I am confident I am speaking to a person who is supportive of me and my belief system.

6. Get gritty

The term grit refers to the passion and perseverance an individual has to achieve a long-term goal, regardless of challenges and obstacles. Individuals with gritty personalities don’t let a challenge get in the way of their success.

When I think of grit, I think of a grain of sand and how it irritates despite its size.  Grit your teeth and move forward with tenacity and determination towards your goals.

7. Invest in people

Listen attentively and engage with the people around you.  People feel validated when they express their thoughts, feelings, and ideas and when you show interest in what interests them.

Mirror back to them all the good you see in them, especially when they can’t see it themselves.

And lastly, use the four Cs to build your relationships––cooperation, commitment, and communication leading to a lasting connection.

8. Learn to play

Take a well-deserved break from the seriousness and busyness of life and let go.

Engaging in activities where we can just be ourselves and act spontaneously brings us joy. Our body is flooded with endorphins, and we let the responsibilities of the day melt away.

I believe women, me included, have lost some fluidity in their hips, symbolic of femininity, as we pursued careers and success in a more masculine manner. Unresolved emotions are stored as toxins in our body tissues and most often within our hips, the part of our body that is associated with change and moving forward in our lives.

When we are engaged and having fun, we feel good. The physical movements encourage our body to let go of those emotions and toxins.

Assume the leadership role using our feminine values and together we can save the world and create the flourishing life we deserve.

“A spiritual leader says, ‘I’ll go first.’ Decide to take the oath: I promise to ‘go first’ in demonstrating forgiveness, compassion, understanding, generosity, kindness, cheerfulness, positivity, and love.”

—Neale Donald Walsch

About Gillian Stevens

Gillian Stevens recently retired from her job as a secondary school guidance counselor, where she empowered at-risk youth to overcome barriers to success. She has now pursued her dream of becoming an author, and her published book, Explore, Transform, Flourish: Support and Hope for Those Who Help Others (How Professionals Keep It Together) is a practical guide which motivates and supports individuals through a process with strategies, tools, and resources to achieve not only work-life balance, but also invites to create their best life yet! Visit her website at

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